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Why (Some) People Say "I love you" And Don’t Mean It

Most people do not love us right because they weren’t loved right.

If you had to do a task, but never did it before and didn’t have any guidance, what would you do? You’d probably get it done the best you could. If the results seemed satisfactory, you may think you finished the task correctly, even if it was completely wrong.

It is the same with love. When someone has not been loved correctly and does not have the correct understanding of love, how they display love to others may be completely wrong, but 100% right to them. 

A while back, I had an argument with someone. They said something extremely disrespectful. We ending up arguing because they were trying to convince me that they still loved me. And it wasn’t so much that they mistreated me, because we do hurt people we love, but the reasons they gave to support their love wasn’t love at all.

God showed me later I had missed out on what could have been a life-changing experience for them. Instead of getting into a disagreement about it, I should have showed them what love was. A great opportunity — gone.

So the next time someone says “I love you” and you know it isn’t love, don’t judge them. Don’t hurt them. Provide whoever it is with the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps no one showed them love and they were forced to create their own definition.

Please don’t be like me who missed out on a wonderful opportunity—take advantage. Display love to them “deeply from the heart” (1 Peter 1:22).

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.

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