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When Love Goes TOO Far

Sometimes I feel like everyone is taking away pieces from me, leaving nothing else but bones.

Do you ever feel that way? You’re being spread too thin. You’re so busy taking care of everyone else, helping others, comforting the hurt and loving people that you’ve neglected yourself? Rough isn’t it? I know.

I like to think of this as the “excessive love syndrome”. It’s when love goes too far and becomes overwhelming.

And if we aren’t careful, we can actually resent love. I noticed the thinner I made myself for others, the more I disliked helping others. The more I loved excessively, the more I disliked loving.

That’s dangerous. Especially since loving one another is important.

A friend of mine, Dominique (a great leader at Follow for Bible Study Ministry), told me if I’m overwhelmed, stop being over committed. And to be honest, that was the best advice I’ve received in a long time.

It made perfect sense: don’t stop loving, just stop taking on more than you can bear.

My heart goes out to all who are hurt and need aid but my friends, realistically, we can’t help every one out there. We have to do what we can, when we can, and pray that God sends help for the rest. Don’t be like me, left with only bones and forced to rebuild yourself. 

By taking on fewer tasks to help others, we’ll be more efficient. Life becomes a lot easier when we do not overfill our plates. In Dominique’s words, “we complicate things when we over commit.”

So whether it be helping a neighbor cut the grass, taking a grandparent to the store, helping the homeless, feeding a child, or being a listening ear—do it in moderation. 

Learn to love without destroying yourself.

*Author’s Note: Thank you, Dominique for teaching me this small, but big lesson. I’ve learned from it and now, I can share it with others. God bless you.

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