In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don’t settle for a playmate when God has a Soul Mate waiting for us. Sometimes this is a hard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun to be with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking this has to be our Soul Mate. Worse yet, too many of us attempt to make a Soul Mate out of a Playmate.
The danger of this is that later, after years of playing we will meet our Soul Mate, but it may be too late then. We may have already made a Life Mate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children, etc.) or we may have been hurt from playing so hard, that we are in no shape ourselves to be anyone’s anything.
How can we distinguish between the One, and just another one? First we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind. Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your Soul Mate you have to know you first. You must be willing to listen to that inner voice. And is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be he? What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when no one else will. Oh no! He’s too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on? Just too ordinary looking for me! Then there’s that girl who makes you feel so special when you’re around her, but she doesn’t match that ideal you have conjured in your head. She’s too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just couldn’t be for me! So what if he or she doesn’t look like Denzel Washington or Janet Jackson! He or she is going to treat you like the jewel that you are.
Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put on the back burner our superficial thinking. Could it be that your inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart? If you enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates out there to occupy your time. But don’t spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses its appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soul mate.
“Man is made or unmade by himself. He is the tool by which he can destroy himself or build a world of great joy, strength and peace.”
Proverbs & Wisdom would like to give a special thank you to Jonetta Davis for granting us permission to post her article which was originally published on Facebook of April 2011.