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Betrayal and Forgiveness

Guest Writer: Angie Blevins

Betrayal cuts deep. Being betrayed by someone you cared for and trusted hurts badly and is a traumatizing experience.

It is even worse being betrayed by a fellow “Christian”. People are and can be very deceiving; they can act like they care about you when really, they have selfish intentions.

I was reading an article titled When “Christians” Betray You by Stacie Ruth, and she said it perfectly:

They flaunt faith through outward acts and Bible facts. They talk all about what they do for Jesus rather than what Jesus did for them. They think they know Jesus, but their actions totally deny Him.

A couple of years ago, I was betrayed by “Christian” friends for whom I had much trust and respect. It would have never crossed my mind that they would stab me in the back one day.  They said very hurtful things to me that I honestly will never forget. Their betrayal left a permanent scar and I will always remember the pain it caused.

We serve a God who completely understands the pain of betrayal.  Jesus was betrayed by one of his own disciples, Judas (Mark 14:10-11).  The other disciples deserted Jesus when He was arrested (Matthew 26:56), and Peter denied that he even knew Jesus when he was being questioned (Matthew 26:69-75). So if you think no one understands, know that our Lord God knows exactly how you feel.

Well, a year after the ‘ultimate betrayal’ I still felt bitter and continued replaying the incident over and over again in my head as I longed for an apology I never received.  I thought an apology would make me feel better, but what I hadn’t realized was I let it consume me – causing more damage because I refused to let go.  I was so angry and completely filled with unforgiveness; I didn’t want to forgive them after what they did. Honestly, I wanted them to hurt as badly as I did. But carrying around a bitter heart, grudges, and unforgiveness is a guaranteed ticket to have a defeated and miserable life; it not only destroys us, but it opens a door for Satan to control us.

Why must we forgive?

Jesus commanded us to forgive. If we don’t forgive, neither will we be forgiven (Matthew 6:15).

We need to realize that regardless if a person is Christian or not, we are all human and are far from perfect; we are all sinners, we all make mistakes and we all at one time or another say and do the wrong thing. We all need forgiveness, and we all need Jesus.

God shows and clearly proves His [own] love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One) died for us.” (Romans 5:8, AMP)

 “If you forgive others the wrongs they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you.But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done.” (Matthew 6:14-15, GNT)

“Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. “I’ll do the judging,” says God. “I’ll take care of it.” (Romans 12:19, MSG)

Jesus’ life is the ultimate example of forgiveness.  Jesus set an example for us. He taught to forgive one another and how to live a life pleasing to God. Forgiveness brings freedom.

Corrie Ten Boom, a Christian woman who survived a Nazi concentration camp during the Holocaust, said, “Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you.”

Angie Blevins is a young woman who loves the Lord with all her heart and has a huge passion for encouraging and helping others. She enjoys writing; you can visit her encouragement blog, and sign up for her weekly encouragement newsletter here. You can also find Angie on Twitter. On behalf of Proverbs & Wisdom, we thank Angie for sharing her message of forgiveness with us all.

 If this message blessed you, please be sure to leave Angie an encouraging comment below.

14 Responses

  1. Tanya Villani

    Thank you for sharing Angie. I have gone through the same thing and God showed me the same things He showed you making forgiveness easier. I found the more I prayed for these people, the more I grew to love them with the Love of Christ and see them as Christ sees them.

    1. Throughout one’s lifetime we will experience betrayal at least once or probably more (sadly). The pain that the offender have caused is never easy to let go but when we turn everything over to God, He makes it easier for us to truly forgive. The weight we are carrying that the offender caused is released off our shoulders when we allow God to take control. We can experience peace because of Him. Not forgiving will only destroy us so instead of allowing it to destroy we need to give it to God and allow Him to restore us! Thanks again for taking the time to read and comment on my post.

  2. This is such a sweet reminder. Pain causes us to think about no one but ourselves and when (in anger) we don’t let go and forgive… it will consume us.

    Thank you for this awesome reminder. you have a heart of Gold Angie

    {{HUGS}}

    @spreadingJOY

    1. Aww thanks Marie! And yes when we do not let the pain and bitterness go- the only thing it will do is completely consume and destroy us, that’s why we must let it go. Thank you for always reading and commenting on my posts! I appreciate you! {{HUGS}}

    1. Thanks Mary Lou! I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment on my post. The message of forgiveness is something that needs to be talked about a lot more especially in the days we live in. God bless you!

      1. Ms. Mary, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and comment. Your kindness is much appreciated! I am so glad that you enjoyed my post! Praise the Lord. Praying for you and yours right now! Be blessed my dear!

  3. Mary

    I have no words to say but “Thank you!” ~carrying around a bitter heart, grudges, and unforgiveness is a guaranteed ticket to have a defeated and miserable life; it not only destroys us, but it opens a door for Satan to control us.~ and that is true.. Ms. Angie, please continue to pray for us(me) that carries weary.. GodBless!

    1. Ms. Mary, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and comment. Your kindness is much appreciated! I am so glad that you enjoyed my post! Praise the Lord. Praying for you and yours right now! Be blessed my dear!

  4. grace

    I carried around in my heart such pain and anger that I too felt the bitterness eating away at my whole being. I could not let go of how much pain I felt, it hurst so bad I would cry almost every day. It hurt by heart and I could not believe that I was treated the way I was by individuals I thought loved me, and were related to me. I could not endure it any longer, I even wished them a agonizing painful death, I wanted them to hurt just as I was hurting but more, much much more. Well what I begun to realize that all this anger, bitterness, and hate was not hurting them but instead was hurting me, inside my soul, I refused to accept what they did and when I finally let it go, slowly but surely the pain within me seemed to ease. I still wanted their deaths to unbearably painful but with these thoughts still lingering inside me, I realized they had control over me, I still cannot believe what my own family did but I don’t wish bad things on them, I figured it was not my place to want revenge, that the Lord would handle the sins they case, as for me, I would be no better then they if I let these feelings control me. I let go, and someday, they will have to explain their actions, not to me but to our dear LORD. With this I began to heal and try to live my life day by day.

    1. Grace, thank you for your candor- it is appreciated. I understand where you are coming from. The pain and the hurt run very deep and it’s only natural to want them to hurt as bad as we do but the reality is all the anger and bitterness we hold inside of us is eating us alive and poisons and consumes us. Forgiving isn’t about letting people walk over us like a door mat or give people a free pass to hurt us — it is us letting go so that we may truly heal and live a full life like Jesus intended us to live. And yes in the end we all have to stand before the Lord so it is not us to get revenge because ultimately the Lord will handle everything accordingly. Stay strong my friend, I’m praying for you! And remember Jesus is with you always!

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