I sat down one day thinking, why—why do I help others; what importance does it have and do people really appreciate and understand the sincerity behind my actions? Although I did not have answers to the questions, I concluded that it didn’t matter.
When I give — when we give — we should expect nothing back. That, my friends, is true generosity: giving with all your heart, in full joy, solely because you want to give to the receiver, without any catches and without looking for anything in return.
I use to be kind to others, but deep within me there was always that part which longed for something—whether it be recognition of a deed I had done, a simple thank you, or even a small favor in the future.
Then I stumbled across Luke 6:35 where Jesus says:
But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.
How selfish, I thought, for me to expect to receive something in return when God had been kind to me all my life even in times I was undeserving. After reading this scripture, I made a pact to myself. I would give without expectancy for now I understood what giving truly meant: to bless someone whole-heartedly and not because the person deserved it, but because giving is a part of loving others.
Often, I hear so many comments such as “After all I did for you, this is what I get?” and “I always help you, you can’t help me?” or something of the sort. Yes, when we are kind to others they should be kind to us, but saying statements such as the ones mentioned is not the type of giving Jesus called us to do.
2 Corinthians 9:6-15 explains how we ought to give to others. The verses that stand out most are 6 and 7 which reads:
Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each man should give what he has decided to give in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
A cheerful giver, the Bible reads. And the only way to be a cheerful giver is to not be bitter about what people do and don’t do for you and how they treated you and didn’t treat you. A cheerful giver, Paul says, is who God loves. Not a bitter, stingy, or reluctant one. Not the person who gives because they feel required to, but the person who gives out of the love within their heart.
The next time you have the chance to bless someone, do so. But when you do, make sure you are the giver that is pleasing in God’s eyes, a person who gives out of love.